5 techniques to boost your communication skills by 100%

Talented politicians, businessmen, and speakers follow these practical methods. Why not to make use of them?

Effective communication is a dream of many, and today we offer you to get acquainted with techniques that will lift your oratory skills to a whole new level.

  1. Keep people’s names in mind

Dale Carnegie wrote in his book "How to Win Friends and Influence People":

Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”

By repeating the name of your opponent during a dialogue, you win his favor and increase the confidence in yourself. Don’t underestimate this technique but avoid overusing it: every phrase that starts with the name of your opponent will sound at least weird.

  1. Let people speak

People are happy to talk about themselves. Psychologists say that by doing so, we get impulses of pleasure similar to those from tasty food or sex. Curious figures: according to the results of a recent study by Harvard psychologists, about 25% of people are ready to give up monetary compensation if given the opportunity to talk about their problems.

Dale Carnegie also mentioned how important sharing experiences is for people:

Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems.”

  1. Practice active listening

This tip is closely related to the one above. Actually, good listening makes half of a successful conversation. Satisfy the need of your opponent to share his or her opinion as well as to receive your attention, understanding, and approval.

Of course, active listening is not about nodding your head. You will have to learn how to convey your opponent’s thoughts in other words and to reflect his or her feelings. The latter, for example, means that you will "scan" the mood and emotional state of a person and talk about it. This is a very effective way to gain trust!

  1. Help people form the sense of self-worth

The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”

William James, American philosopher and psychologist

We fancy feeling that people like us, it boosts our self-esteem. How to increase the sense of importance in your opponent? Give him a sincere compliment. We are not talking about flattery: instead of helping you, it may put you in an awkward position.

Another tip is to ask for a piece of advice. This gesture will show that you trust the opponent's opinion, respect his point of view, and consider him as an authority. And, of course, this is another reason to let him talk.

  1. Focus on similarity

It’s scientifically proven that we sympathize with those who are something like us. To reach out to people with similar interests or hobbies is normal, and this human trait can be effectively used in life and business. So, you can find things in common and make them the topic of your dialogue or at least start with paraphrasing your opponent’s words. Pay careful attention to the moments of special importance, remember them and show that you understand or appreciate them.

Enjoy your updated communication skills!

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